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Community. That is what you think of when you think of one of us “Crunchy Mom, poop in our washing machine, save the world one diaper at a time Moms.” To be honest, the cloth diaper world has a lot more going on behind the scenes. Depending on where you choose to settle down to take your chit chat, buying frenzy, and stash shots, could define how you are perceived by others. As a compilation of rants and raves and humor from many cloth groups, I have compiled the reactions of many parents on the titles you can claim below!
What you post in a online group or how you talk to your other cloth diapering friends, will group you. Kind of like in middle and high school. We have cliques. Don’t be so naive, if you have been cloth diapering, you are fully aware of this! Which group do you fall in to? Or do you co-mingle across the courtyard and make friends in a few areas? Be sure to comment below and let us know how you got in to cloth diapering and if your clique has changed over time! If you came here and found out you are pissing people off, does that change what group you want to be in?
Maybe Baby Stasher: We see you over there, grabbing up all these brand new diapers and not posting OTB (on the butt) shots. You either started stashing when you decided you wanted to try for children, or perhaps, you used disposable diapers prior with another child and want to choose to do cloth next time around. You buy anything that catches your fancy or that your friends tell you work great. This is because you don’t want to miss out on a print or custom style you like.
In the scheme of things, you might be selling off a lot down the line…not every diaper works for every child. You might even piss off some of the members in groups you are in. Taking away from babies who are currently in diapers. Then there are those who are just jealous of you, you get the dipes they want. All is fair in love and stashes right? Look on the bright side, if you give up on cloth in the first few tries, your resale value is rocking with most in NIP (new in package) status!
The Happy Hoarder: Put the Paypal access on lock. Report your card stolen. Your husband is about to revoke all your spending privileges. Seriously, how many butts are you covering over there? How many times would you have to use each diaper to make it worth the investment? Are you an only child? Do you have sharing problems? You have over 100 diapers for one kid?
It may be time to find a new hobby because you have become excessive. People swoon over what you have and try to convince you to part with one they are DISO (desperately in search of), in hopes that you are not so over the moon in love with it between the other 99 you have, that you would make their pipe dream come true. Do you get a special award for spending the most money on your stash? If you could buy a new car, shoot, a used car for a CASH payment if you sold the diapers, you may be a hoarder! Oh, you have been side eyed. I saw a family or two take a vacation once they sold their diapers. Yes, a family of four. Full vacation. Paid for.
Brand Loyal: Good for you! You found a brand you enjoy and you stick to it. It does limit how many colors or prints you may have but you are content with that. Build a rainbow (one of every color), or a triple rainbow. Go for it. Just stop bashing other brands because you think yours is the best and you are a genius for only giving that brand your money.
Did you even try other brands? If so, that’s awesome! If not, you might be missing out 😉 Does your brand stay loyal to you? Is the customer service above average? Or is there so much drama in your cloth community that you actually just scroll through the chat and hide unless it’s time to buy something new? Bet you wish you could buy stock since this is where your money goes! I would be brand loyal if the company treated me with respect and offered loyalty rewards. Isn’t this how you decide where to buy your groceries, cars, and shop local?
Mainstream Mama: You buy lots of brands. You just buy them if you can order them online in a shop that sells a variety. You might find a local shop who carries your favorite brand. You wouldn’t think about trying out a WAHM (work at home mom) because to you, if they can’t produce them fast enough or with a return policy, it’s too much work to branch out.
You want the ease of browsing and things being in stock at all times. That’s cool, we want to #MakeClothMainstream but we also want to provide options for more unique and custom diapers. Disposables, you are limited to what is available. With cloth, we can have endless options to suit everyone!
Gimmie WAHM Ma’am: You believe in the beauty of supporting a work at home Mom! You see the craftsmanship that screams “I’m quality!” You spend long hours trying to stalk when the next round of diapers will be released. You are diligent to check daily what is going on in the WAHM world that you are active in. You make friends who secretly are your competition as well. You cheer them on when they get a diaper they wanted to score but you also huff under your breath when you can’t get your hands on something you really wanted.
Many can’t fit in to this community as the competition is fierce. With a limited amount of hands producing a limited amount of diapers, building a stash in this way can be a journey in itself. Each purchase is something to covet like the last piece of chocolate you hid from your child. It is rewarding yet so heartbreaking to want a full WAHM stash. With a WAHM you can get something more customized that speaks to you on an emotional level.
You can get something that helps a woman stay at home to be with her children so that you can cover your child’s bum in something you love and are proud to show off. The prices are a bit steeper but the quality if you find the right WAHM to stand behind, is beyond exceptional! Just be careful who you brag about your coveted diapers though, they will become your newest competition 😉
Fantastically Frugal: Let’s be honest, the people who buy Mainstream sometimes side eye you. You bought “China cheapies” but you know what? They work for you! I am jealous to a degree. I tried a few when I started my cloth journey. I could NOT make those mainstream in our house. I had leg leaks and waist leaks, and leaks from his face…not a stretch, he cried when he was mad about being wet on his clothes in them! You can buy them in bulk and in some fairly cute prints.
You will NOT get a warranty. You will NOT get anything custom or embroidered or even appliqued. It will be basic PUL in solid or print. These are great diapers to send to daycare so your coveted ones are not ruined or accidentally tossed, yes, this happens more often than I would think. You can’t beat the price but you also most times can not compare them to the quality of the mainstream or WAHM brands. Still, this option is better than disposables if you are serious about using cloth even on a tiny budget! I commend you for sticking your toes in the water.
Keeping it Old School: Because you are no fool. Before disposables became something you could go pick up at 11PM at the local drug store, Mom’s were using flour sack towels, pre-folds, and baby blankets! This is one of the most absorbent ways to start a stash or perfect a stash of covers/pocket diapers. Using safety pins or Snappis (a bit new age), you can form a diaper around your child.
They are not waterproof without a cover of some sort but around the house, you can tell if you need to change easily. You can buy flour sack towels on the cheap and they are 100% cotton so the absorbency is excellent! In a bind you can even cut up a t-shirt or receiving blanket to form an old school diaper! I swear by flour sack towels in our night time pocket diaper! Natural fibers will also prevent stink issues!
Anything and Everything: You are not against trying any brand, any style, and any solution. You want what works and when you find that, in multiple brands, you buy them. When you find a print you like or color you must have, you buy it. Nothing is off limits.
Your stash is a melting pot of variation. You have a Heinz 57 stash and it works for you! Nothing is off limits, which could be scary for your spending budget but also does not limit you to only buying when something new is released or you get the right to buy something from a WAHM. You are also, very very blessed, that so much works for your child(ren)! You can mingle with all the diaper communities and fit right on it. You know a lot about cloth diapers but never locked yourself in to one type or brand.
The Flipper: So, you are considered the cloth diaper bully. You are a flipper if you purposely buy hard to find, limited edition, rare, hard to get, diapers. You buy them from WAHMS and scalp the other Mom’s to pay more than retail before you even used it. You used it for trading power to get a diaper you really wanted and held it hostage until you got your way. You used multiple credit cards, shipping addresses, or paypal accounts, to purchase limited edition releases that clearly stated; 2 of each diaper of each type ONLY. ‘
Did you NEED 2 of each diaper of EACH type? No, you wanted to take that $20-$30 dipe and flip it on purpose. (Excludes the rare profit of you buying one or two and not liking it or deciding to destash for your maybe baby of another gender and getting fair market value on ONE extra you had, not MULTIPLE) When you buy at retail on the release day and not allow other parents to have it, you are a jerk.
Plain and simple. People hate you. you will have bad diaper karma forever and ever and ever. Don’t be a jerk. You end up in detention for being a bully. In the end, you end up not liked by many. Remember the high school analogy here? Buy what you NEED or maybe that one extra for the maybe baby but don’t be a NIP, hoarding, jerk!
Hard to Find: You stealthily only build a stash based on the hard to find and limited edition prints. It may be one brand or multiple but you only want it if it’s hard to find. You don’t want everything that is available on a daily basis. You want a challenge. You want that exclusive. Your stash is built on being built on the prints you either couldn’t get your hands on or the prints you had to stay glued to your computer to be fast and furious to get. You have prints that will never be made again or might be done in a small re-release.
You have a coveted stash and it will make you a pretty penny if taken care of in the long run. You have an investment. You don’t want your child to poop in that diaper because it might devalue it. It’s a shrine. If you are a WAHM fan you have a stash based around all your favorite movies or characters. You are obsessed with this. If someone else has it, YOU MUST GET IT! Your significant other, thinks you are nuts.
Look Ma! I Made My Own: You over achieving DIY’er! You looked at a diaper and said you would go and make one yourself. Maybe you had enough competition and wanted to just figure it out. You were sick of elastics being shotty in a certain mainstream brand and figured you could make something sturdier. You have access to some cute PUL or even learned how to do embroidery.
You may just be on your way to becoming a WAHM yourself. You may have found your niche. Or you may have just spent $98 in supplies to make a $20 diaper 😉 Either way, you wanted to cloth and by golly, you are doing it! This is how most of the amazing WAHM’s start! Now, with some business knowledge and customer service, you may be the next “Must Have” diaper!
So yes, I fit in to more than one of these titles and I’m quite proud of my stash I have built. All the photos were supplied by other cloth crazy Mom’s who love being a part of the #MakeClothMainstream initiative. We want what we think is best for our children while having fun collecting diapers like Poke’mon cards!
We check our phones when we wake up and stay up late scrolling the chat feeds. We trade, we swap, and we help each other score. I have had mom’s order me a diaper if I knew I had no internet access. I have helped others score in small groups. We really truly are a community. Yes, it’s like high school behind the curtains, but what Mom doesn’t need a little excitement of real world life in her day to day living?
When the fluff mail arrives and my husband gives me that side eye….we all know what is in the package. Another beautiful cloth diaper that I just “had to have”. You know what? It’s OK! I find that I quit a lot of other habits by being so in to cloth! Do you spend your fun money on cloth diapering? How many diapers do you have in your stash?
Dare you to tell me what title(s) belong to you 😉
Author: Nichole Arnold
I’m the owner of Mommy Needs a Bottle . I’m a 30- something wine enthusiast that resides in Tampa, FL. I love family traditions, traveling, cooking, baking, reading, fashion, tattoos, beauty products, and being a Mommy! I have a background in marketing, public relations, copywriting, and sales.