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35 Adult Birthday Wishes for my 35th Year
Wow! I’m turning 35. I could grab the bull by the horns or I could hover in fear. You see, at 35, I have no health insurance. I have no savings. I have no 401K, I have no reasonable long terms goals. Until I break it all down in to smaller more attainable goals. Adulting is rough. Adulting can suck it.
I mean, in my early 20’s I thought I was fat. Well here I am double the size and really stuck. I wish I was as fat as I thought I was back then. I hate the word fat. I wouldn’t ever use it to describe a person or a pet. Yet, here I am, throwing it down on myself. I’m disappointed in myself in so many ways. I’ve become everything my Mother tried to make sure I was not. I was never a quitter. I was never a failure, and I was never so consumed by what other people thought, that I let myself give in.
I was Supergirl. I was strong. I was a fighter. Now, I’m just tired. It’s five days until my 35th birthday as I write this. Maybe you are reading it the day it is published. Maybe you are reading it after I turn 35. Either way, maybe just maybe you can find some inspiration to dig deep within your heart’s biggest desires and find your adult birthday wishes. A wish is a dream your heart makes. Around my 25th birthday I had created a list of 100 things I wanted to do that year. It changed my life in some BIG WAYS. I got tired and didn’t complete them all but man, the adventures I had were amazing.
Here are my 35 adult birthday wishes for my 35th birthday. Not in any particular order, except maybe 1-5 😉
(35) Be done with this renovation. It was unexpected and not planned. It was caused by a leak in the wall from a shower head. It’s been going on since June. My house is torn apart. I can’t work to the best of my ability. I am constantly wondering when people are showing up.
(34) Visit Dollywood. Ever since I was a little girl I have loved Dolly Parton. My Mom always reminded me of sitting on her lap at a concert and just crying that I wanted to be just like Dolly.
(33) Escape to a cabin for Christmas…peacefully. I have only once been away for Christmas, my family would move the celebration to the week after. I cruised for Christmas in 2012. It saved my marriage to be honest. Being away from people who wore you out and made you feel bad. Not healthy at all. Christmas should be about happiness, joy, and making memories.
(32) Say, “NO!” more often. To stop feeling guilty for being the responsible one. Just say “No!” Just because you are reliable does not mean you have to help everyone. People throw the word “favor” around quite often but then never are there to follow through when you may need one in return.
(31) Expect more of my child. It is my responsibility to provide him with what he needs but also to instill the rules. Don’t let him push off homework or other things until the last minute.
(30) Commit to meal planning. Once the kitchen is redone, a constant commitment to meal planning. Not only will it help our pocketbook but it will help our waistlines and our schedule. If I know what is on the menu, I know how to plan my day better to food prep.
(29) Teach my son to ride a bike. He doesn’t know it yet, but two of my best friends (His Godfather and my other bestie) who somehow I magically got together (Leave that for another story lol)…they got him a big boy bike for his 5th birthday. His 5th birthday is the day after my 35th. He got too tall for his current bike. By the age of 5/6 I was riding without training wheels. I’d love to get him to that point as well.
(28) Get back to a weekly family dinner with my Uncle. He is so freaking neurotic (Hi, Uncle John!!!) LoL but I love him. He is the one person who even when I just need to scream, curse, vent it out…he listens with no judgement. He would never go to another person and repeat my anger, he would let me work it out, he would provide a hug, and just give me a sounding board. Before my Grandmother was retired, we had weekly meals. Every single Wednesday…until he moved to another state. It took me having my son and begging for him to move back to Florida. He eats like garbage…so feeding him a proper meal would suit both of us just fine.
(27) Commit to Kelly time. I have known Kelly since 2011. She’s a total gem. I’m not sure why I cursed her by setting her up with my “baby bro” (Ya know the ones we choose, not blood related) but she’s happy and he’s happy ,so I’m happy lol. We had to go long spans without being able to see each other. Thankfully now we live closer together, my son is absolutely obsessed with her, and I love her more than a sister. We are both really busy but I think being sure we commit more time to each other really helps our sanity. It’s not often we don’t talk every single day on messenger. To have that friend you can be totally TMI with, that gets you, and still doesn’t judge you. That’s Kelly.
(26) Attempt to make more Mom friends. It’s so weird, when Davin was less than a year old, it seemed easy. Now it seems so difficult. I think it might get easier if he gets in to a community driven Charter School where parents volunteer. I miss having play dates for him.
(25) Pam. A true bestie. We’ve known each other since I was 19! While we may be many years apart in age. She has been a trooper through all the trials and tribulations of my life. I want to get her scheduled on a girls getaway weekend. She has not been on a real vacation or trip in many years due to school. She is the one person I know will be there to take care of our pets when we travel and make sure my house doesn’t catch on fire. I want her to enjoy a weekend away with no one asking her for favors or to run errands.
(24) Start my Facebook live show for the website. I want to do a show 1-2x a week on a schedule (Ha!) that incorporates some of the things we love here at Mommy Needs a Bottle. Food, Cocktails, Crafting, Travel….Things got put on hold due to the house issues but it is on the front burner almost ready to get turned on!
(23) Have more photos of me taken. I am typically behind the camera for the website or snapping photos on my phone while traveling. I want to ask my husband to be more aware of taking photos with me. When my Mom died, my most treasured items were photos of us together.
(22) Try to implement veggies for my husband and kid. They both are pretty adamant about avoiding veggies….but Momma knows whats best.
(21) Get a proper dental cleaning and x-rays. It’s been years….and I know I need it, but still paying off braces I got off my teeth in 2013.
(20) Start a 401K with my husband’s job. After the new year, we need to focus on not only the goals of being homeowners but creating a financial safety net. I know many say it is so hard living paycheck to paycheck, but I also live freelance to freelance. If you think it, commit to it, you can achieve it. (I hope!)
(19) Get organized. I have been trying but failing. I want to have all papers in my house organized and filed. I want to get photos on USB drives, I want to not have 7000+ emails in my inbox.
(18) Get my son and husband on an airplane. Neither have been. I think everyone should go. I love it. It’s an experience.
(17) Renew my passport as it expires early 2019, then get my son a passport. I don’t want anything holding us back when it comes to being able to attempt to travel further than the cruise lines take us from Florida or the USA borders.
(16) Find more time to read. I don’t think I have picked up a Kindle let alone a real book to read since 2013 when I was pregnant. I love reading! I just lack time. I guess this means shaving out some time for myself.
(15) Return to Disney World. I mean shit! The cost is so expensive now days but I know many who validate that the annual pass is worth it. I would love to write more Disney features on the website, travel tips, and foodie posts but I have to find a way to fit it in the budget. My son went once before his third birthday and doesn’t remember much.
(14) Take my son to Washington D.C. My son got to meet Bryan, who is the only father figure I had ever grown up with. They absolutely adored each other. My Dad lives outside D.C and I would love to not only visit again and see things I saw as a child but let my son experience it all!
(13) I wish to have the willpower to eat out less. It will save a lot of money and as I mentioned above, meal planning helps in this aspect. It’s fun to plan a few special treats out to celebrate things or have a lazy pizza night, but after the amount of food we have had to eat out when our stove/oven was not able to be plugged in for this renovation…I am ready to keep that money in my pocketbook.
(12) Stop depending on others. Stop thinking people consider my time valuable. Stop thinking people will keep the commitments once planned. If someone doesn’t show up on time…go do something without them.
(11) Lose the weight if not pregnant. I know I moaned above about myself…and it’s been a tricky battle since I had my son. I would get on keto, fall off, work out, stop working out. The cycle has been vicious. I want to be pregnant or fit…not this in between version that I have self loathing for.
(10) Bust out the sewing machine. I really want to get a little creative but I have a new sewing machine that I am dying to try out. I honestly have never learned more than straight lines but there is always a beginning to each journey. If all I do is manage to make guinea pig fleece liners…then so be it.
(9) I wish to keep the spirit of my Mom alive within my son. He is so adventurous and I adore that. He loves to talk about her and see pictures of her. I want to keep her in his memories as he grows older.
(8) I wish for good health for my loved ones. I know how much I hate being in pain or sick. May they have a fruitful year of good health, no pain, and lots of memory making moments.
(7) Find a primary physician I trust. Who does not talk down to me. One I can afford out of pocket since health insurance seems to be a constant joke. I had one back in 2011 but he has since retired.
(6) Not attend any funerals. I would really love to not have to attend any funerals. While I am entrusted to many extended family members to take care of their last dying wishes, I would prefer to have some time to just not have people dying around me. There has not been one year since 2015 I have not lost a family member or friend. Once again, I’m tired.
(5) If my number two wish comes true, then grab an equity loan and finish the remodels on the home including floors, new back door, replace one window, and get new appliances.
(4) Praying my son gets accepted to our number one Charter School choice. I put in the application on the very first day. We have two back up schools in mind but it would be a dream come true for him to get in to our number one pick.
(3) Pay down debts on credit cards, we no longer are using most, and attempting the snowball program highly promoted by Dave Ramsey. It’s hard when you don’t have much excess money but step by step and day by day. We currently save 10% of my income for emergencies. I want to increase that once more of the debt is paid down.
(2) Buy the house we are currently renting. We are renting one of my childhood homes and it is a goal to own it. We can make our attempt in Summer of 2019.
(1) Get pregnant. While the OB last told me that 35 was considered “geriatric”, it has always been a dream of mine to have three children. We have our beautiful son Davin, lost another baby, and are still trying. It may seem selfish to many that I want another when I have one, but remember, I can desire and wish for anything I want, just as you can.
I’m only human. I can only ask for what is important to me. I pray you do the same for yourself. If you are unhappy with where you are, be it finances, family, love life, home life, sit back and reflect. What would make you happy. Many times putting pen to paper (or fingers to computer) will lead you to inspire yourself.
This is 35.
Author: Nichole Arnold
I’m the owner of Mommy Needs a Bottle . I’m a 30- something wine enthusiast that resides in Tampa, FL. I love family traditions, traveling, cooking, baking, reading, fashion, tattoos, beauty products, and being a Mommy! I have a background in marketing, public relations, copywriting, and sales.