This story doesn’t quite have a happy ending. It has lots of happy moments. To me, it started nearly 32 years ago. For my son Davin, it started almost two years ago. Grandparent’s Day. A day to celebrate Grandparents. Today we celebrate and remember some great Grandparents. I myself only have one Grandparent left. For my son, one has left this earth, suddenly and way too soon, others are not near by or are very sick and can’t visit with their grandkid some days. None the less…there are some very loving ways you can still celebrate this day on the actual day it is on the calendar and of course year round.
You see. My Grandmother has always been a HUGE part of my life. My Grandfather passed away in 2006 but he was someone special to me in his own unique way. He had a way of pushing others away but sucking me in to his stories and laughter. I think I got a lot of my snark and sailor mouth from him.
My Grandmother is still very much alive and I am so blessed to have an amazing relationship with her. You could say she is like my second Mom. She took a lot of financial things on to raise me and let me spread my wings. She is the reason I have a safe roof over my family’s head right now and the reason I answer private call numbers on my phone. She is overseas right now enjoying retirement. Although I miss her so very much and wish I could just sit next to her and hang out after a nice dinner, she is healthy and happy and I can reach her via email any day and we can schedule phone calls and video chats on Skype.
Sadly we have to turn to the not so happy moment of today. Those two amazing people above were my other family. From the time I was about a year and a half old, they helped raise me up. My Mom has always been a single Mom with my Grandmother as her sidekick to help raise me and my sister but they needed help. I have such an amazing extended family thanks to them. Mom passed away in March last year and Pop, last month. I know they are looking down on me and either smiling or shaking their heads at my decisions, either way, I was so very blessed to be chosen to be in their lives. One of the most important things to me growing up was to have them at my wedding. I attended so many weddings in their family and knew that I had to see them on my special day. This photo was that day <3
I was able to get my husband and sister to snatch this darling photo of Davin and his Paw Paw today, they went to visit to watch football. Sadly, both of them are missing out on my Mother in Law Priss. She passed away suddenly in May of this year. This is the only Grandfather Davin will know as I do not have a Dad figure in the picture for him to get to know locally, the person who I call Dad…has no biological connection to me and lives out of state so this is Grandpa. The one and only. He adores Davin so much it’s great! We will make sure he knows about his Grandma. She was just smitten with him.
My Mom is still here with us. This is Davin’s Nana. However, she is sick. She loves Davin more than anything in this world but I can only take him to visit once in awhile due to her having no immune system. Sadly, kids are little walking germ infestations lol. He gets his love of sunglasses and hats from her. He loves to call her on the phone. I pray every day she will be around to see Davin become a big brother one day.
So many amazing people that I have been blessed to call Grandparents myself and that Davin gets to call his Grandparents. I thank you for taking a moment to get to know the special people in our lives and now want to give you some easy yet easy ways to celebrate the Grandparents in YOUR life no matter if they are here on earth, in heaven, or just far away. Remember, they can be celebrated daily even if you are unable to be WITH THEM.
- Call, write, text, or video chat. If you are unable to visit. If they are accessible. Make every effort to let them know you are thinking about them.
- Cherish and take many photos. Don’t forget when you are with them to take photos. For when they are gone, you will cherish those memories more than anything else.
- Do something you liked to do together. Cook a favorite meal, visit a favorite place, Create a craft. This is something personal between the bond you share. If they are alive, share this with them. If the are afar, show them via a photo. If they are sadly gone, reflect and cherish the moment.
- Talk. If you can’t talk to them. Talk about them. Talk about memories. If you want your children to remember them, share photos, share memories, and share laughter and joy.
- Visit. If they are local, make the effort to visit. If they are afar, try to plan a trip to see them. If they are gone, visit their memorial site or visit your memories in your head. Journal how you feel.
Grandparents and Parents alike are such special people. They really don’t want much but to see their grandkids and cherish the smiles. Don’t wait until it is too late to give a hug, kiss, or share a cup of coffee. I have my regrets in some of these losses and I won’t make the mistakes again. Life is too precious. If it were not for Grandparents, you would not be here 🙂
Happy Grandparent’s Day! How do you celebrate your Grandparents?